Why Men Don’t Commit. | Wisdom Is Misery

July16th

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Single Black Male: Episode III

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I was fortunate enough to receive another host on SingleBlackMale.org this week. In this submission I attempted to explain why I feel men don’t commit. I’m only one man and in the interest of full disclosure I must admit I didn’t bother to do any research beyond personal observations and drawing conclusions in my own head. Despite this fact I believe the reasons presented are fairly accurate. However, you don’t have to agree.

There is also some healthy debate, contrary opinions and opposing views in the comment section following the blog. I suggest you read through these too. I haven’t changed my personal opinions but they were expanded from the discussions that took place. If you have an opinion or follow-up question on the subject from the male or female perspective, feel free to leave a comment below and I will respond accordingly. Click the following link to read the original blog: Why Men Don’t Commit.

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Comment by Demi — July 17, 2010 @ 7:52 am

I liked the writing style on this piece so much, I figured I’d mosey on over here and check your personal blog out for myself. You officially have a new regular reader in me.

I, even as a woman, totally agreed with your point. It’d be nice to assume that all men would be up front about their relationship interests (or lack thereof) from the start, but that’s almost never the case. That being said, it’s essentially a woman’s obligation to ensure that she gets what she needs from a situation or bounce.

This is a difficult point to get across to most women, though. In my own circle of friends, I’ve been labeled as the “maneater”, in part because I don’t entertain situations like the one you spoke on for very long. To me, though, it just doesn’t make sense to continue investing 100% of yourself in something when you only get 60% (or less) in return. Women, by nature, do this ALL THE TIME. Emotions make you cry sometimes.

I did have one teeny issue with your piece, though. “There is nothing complicated about a man”? Psssssh…
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Comment by wimadmin — July 17, 2010 @ 10:09 am

@Demi: Welcome new reader. Glad you enjoyed the post. I agree with what you said and I also think actions are key too. You can weed out a lot of these same type of men by ensuring their actions match their words. Because I think we can all agree that sometimes the words can be (often purposely) misleading on what direction the relationship is or might be going…

Now as President Barack Obama would say, “Lets be clear,” I dont date men, but I do have a lot of “homeboys” and never in my entire 27years of life have they said or done anything I’ve found remotely confusing. With that said, I’m willing to concede that maybe they say and act differently around their significant others, which might inadvertently lead to some level of confusion on their part. Stranger things have happened. lol
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Comment by Nitric Oxide — July 23, 2010 @ 1:10 pm

Hey there I just want to swing by and say cheers for the insight in this post. I wound up on your blog just after researching fitness related things on Google… guess I lost track of what I had been doing! In any event I shall be returning in the near future to look at your blogposts down the road. Seeya!
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